You probably heard of BDSM before.

But once you have a taste of BDSM, there’s no going back…

BDSM = Dangerous and kinky form of sexual activity only weirdos participate in.

Many people probably hold an image like this towards BDSM play.

But in reality it is actually the safest form of sex based upon trust and mutual understanding.

If you are a trusting and well balanced couple, you might want to incorporate some BDSM aspects into your daily sex in order to spice things up and enhance your whole relationship between you and your partner.

In this article, I will explain what BDSM is and how it is actually relatively common and familiar to our daily lives.

Many people tend to fall under the category of either S or M due to their natural preferences and personalities indicated by the kind of communication and relationship they form with other people.

Also, I will provide some information about sex toys and tools for BDSM which beginners can start using for those who are interested and the will of trying out new kind of experience regarding their sex.

There are some cautions to keep in mind when exercising BDSM play with your partner, and it should always be based on the mutual understanding and care for each other for the best experience for both of you.

Let’s explore the world of BDSM together, and find new ways to experience pleasure and figure out the brand new side of you and your partner together!

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What is BDSM?

So, what exactly is BDSM?

At its most basic, BDSM is an umbrella term for three categories: bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism

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Each of these terms represents the relationship between the players of BDSM.

In actual usage, the person taking control is referred to as “dom”, and the person receiving is called “sub”.

In addition, according to bad girls bible, there are a few important terms such as “SSC” and “RACK” in relation to BDSM play.

  • SSC: Safe, Sane, Consensual
  • RACK: Risk, Aware, Consensual, Kink

As these terms suggests, despite the common image of BDSM, it is actually one of the safest and trusting relationship a person can have based on consent.

Quick Guide to BDSM Toys

Here is a brief guide to BDSM toys for people who can’t wait anymore to experience the new world of BDSM!!

-Handcuff

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Handcuffs for restricting freedom of movement for people who enjoy domination of subjugation.

Durable and high quality metal and leather heightens the atmosphere of intense BDSM roleplaying!

-Blindfolds

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A must have tool from the beginners to the masters!

Start from this toy and move up the ranks of true BDSM mastery.

-Ballgag

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A little bit of messiness only increases the excitement for both parties.

Saliva dripping down from mouth and inconceivable noises from the mouth creates the perfect mood for BDSM play!

Do you enjoy domination?

Do you enjoy dominating people, or do you rather enjoy the sense of submission?

This may sound like a weird question for many of you who are reading this article, but it is relatively familiar language regarding those living in the BDSM realm for sexual preferences.

And even though when you think this kind of language has no connection to your daily life, it can emerge in different forms as a rather common phenomenon, in reality.

Let’s see how BDSM terms can apply in our daily social lives.

All guys can have some level of S or M tendencies

First of all, what are S and M?

S and M are actually one of the roles which BDSM player take when they roleplay in their sexual activities.

S stands for Sadism, and M stands for Masochism. (More on these terms in later paragraphs.)

Moreover, these roles can apply not only in sex related relationships, but also all sorts of human social interaction.

This means that our every interaction with another person is, on some level, based on our S or M tendencies.

Sadistic tendencies

A person with sadistic tendencies despises being controlled by other people.

They tend to hold the managing or leading positions in workplaces, and they enjoy the power over people.

It is often considered that people with S tendencies enjoy hurting other people, but this is not always true, and in some milder cases these people can be great since they can be responsible and move with initiative.

Remember this is just a tendency in daily life, so not everything is sexually related, and it is more about human personalities.

Masochistic tendencies

On the other hand, a person with masochistic tendencies tend to be passive, and they do not hate being controlled by other people.

In social situations, these people can be good followers and listeners to other people, and they tend to keep social peace and calm since they are not rebellious.

Surprisingly, people with M tendencies are often more selfish than people with S tendencies due to their passive and receiving nature.

These tendencies are located all over the spectrum and other elements such as emotion, and intelligence all play together to form a person’s personality.

It is interesting to consider which tendencies you fall under by looking back to your daily lives and social interactions.

BDSM toys for beginners

Now that you know more about the reality of BDSM, let’s check out a few toys even a beginner of BDSM can use to have a taste of the deep world of BDSM.

These toys are easy enough to use and does not scream of BDSM much, so you can incorporate into your sex routine without much resistance.

Exploring the new side of you and your partner can work positively to improve your relationship and might prevent you from sexlessness as well.

Find the one that suits you and have fun!

Handcuffs

As you all know already, Handcuffs are used to restrict someone’s freedom of movement.

By binding together the hands, and rendering unable to freely use their hands can enhance the one’s sense of domination on the “dom” side, and provide the sense of helplessness for the “sub” side.

This is the perfect and easy toy to experience a little taste of BDSM play since it is a relatively small and not intrusive piece of tool.

Also, Handcuffs as BDSM toy are not as serious as the real stuff which is used in professional scenes such as by police force, so you don’t have to worry much about getting hurt which makes it even more suitable for beginners.

Blindfolds

Blindfolds take away one of the important senses, which is eye sight.

If you are unable to see your surrounding, you cannot prepare yourself from what’s coming for you, which can increase the excitement for the masochist.

Moreover, by taking away one of the senses, it can have additional effects like sharpening of other senses such as sound, smell, and touch, which makes the person more sensitive to stimulation as well.

Many people probably have blindfolds lying around in their house from the trips in the past, so you might not need to purchase anything in order to have fun with blindfolds.

You can use a normal piece of cloth or a towel as a substitution for blindfolds as well, so I would say this is the most accessible BDSM toy of all, so why not try it out?

Ballgags

Ballgag is a piece of round object which you place in someone’s mouth in order to deprive him/her of the ability to talk and communicate through language.

For the “dom” side, you can enjoy being in control and not allowing them to express their feeling, and for the “sub” side, you will experience the sense of shame.

Also, because you are unable to close your mouth, saliva drips out of your mouth uncontrollably which can further increase the sense of shame which can sexually arouse you even more.

It is a little advanced toy compared to handcuffs and blindfolds but it can surely increase the excitement for the right people that cannot be experienced otherwise.

Bondage ropes

Bondage ropes are ropes that you use to tie up a person into different forms of restraints.

It is used specifically in Bondage and Discipline play from the BDSM.

It can be considered the advanced form of handcuffs which restrains a person’s freedom of movement.

In bondage play, there is a whole art to master in the way you tie up a person and the techniques of restraints.

To scratch the surface, according to Wikipedia, Ball tie, Hogtie bondage, and Crab tie are only a few of the examples in the art of restraining a person.

Bondage play in particular is in itself one of the deepest and most sophisticated sexual activity in BDSM, so prepare yourself to delve in deep and understand the joy of BDSM play in its finest.

Cautions

As you can imagine, although I have been telling you BDSM is one of the safest sex you can have, it can pose some danger if done incorrectly especially for beginners.

As I briefly introduced in the previous section, you must keep in mind the term “SSC” at all time.

This means that you have to communicate with your partner honestly and form certain boundaries in what you can and cannot do during the play.

Safe, sane, and consensual is the most important thing when playing BDSM with your partner, and if you can listen to your partner and clearly define the dos and don’ts you will have no problem and only enjoy the pleasure and satisfaction.

In addition, you should decide on some “safe word” when doing BDSM play, because many times it can go out of control over the excitement and the “dom” side might force more onto you than prior agreement.

Simply decide some word to be the “safe word” and when either of you says the word the whole action should come to halt.

BDSM might involve some physical pain or mental distress at times, so clearly defining a safe word can prevent unwanted stimulation and heighten the experience for both of you.

BDSM is the ultimate trust test

BDSM must always be done between people with the most trusted and mutually understanding relationship.

Because it involves giving up control and freedom to another person, it is utmost important be mindful and understanding of another person’s emotion, joy, fear, and pleasure at the deepest level.

In other words, to be able to experience fulfilling BDSM play, you must pass the ultimate trust test together with your partner.

Perhaps, you used to have a different preconceptions towards BDSM, but it is one of the most sophisticated and fulfilling sexual experience you could have along with your beloved partner.

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Summary

You are now well taught about the knowledge of BDSM that you could start with your journey right away.

BDSM, especially the terms S and M, can apply in all kind of situations across the entire social life since it can be considered as one of a person’s trait or personality tendencies.

Blindfolds, Handcuffs, Ballgags, and Bondage ropes are sex toys that beginner’s can try out easily to expand their view regarding BDSM roleplaying.

It is important to keep in mind about safety and consent when playing BDSM to avoid any trouble with your partner.

BDSM is the ultimate trust test experience which you can have with your partner, and it can strengthen the bond between you and your partner, and improve the relationship.

Explore and enjoy the strange world of BDSM with the correct understanding in your mind!